Are You In A Relationship With Unpredictable Rewards?

In 2008, I had a client who explained to me there was once an experiment that was done with pigeons (I have since found out it the experiment was actually done with rats and that this process is called "Intermittent Reinforcement" see here >>). She explained that In this experiment, the pigeons were divided into [...]

Seductive Withholders

Like Romance Addicts, Seductive Withholders are a form of Ambivalent Love Addict. Ambivalent Love Addicts tend to crave intimacy and closeness with a partner, but fear it at the same time. They tend to keep relationships at a superficial level through various means. This protects them from having to develop a closer and more intimate relationship.

Are You In Love With A Narcissist?

A lot of the calls that I receive are from individuals who are in love with someone who frustrates them and they just want to know if things will ever change. Other calls are from individuals who have lost a love and they want to know if it can be rekindled or retrieved. Some are individuals in a relationship with someone who just can’t make an emotional commitment. However some individuals may be with a partner who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NDP). Such love interests, even if they are charming and pursue you very ardently, may be completely unable to give or show love in a genuine way…

Addiction to Unrequited Love

It may sound silly for an individual to be addicted to unrequited love, but it can sometimes be the result of growing up in a household where love was either conditional or inconsistent. As a result, the child of such a household may have felt anxious to win the love, praise or affection of a parent—or someone else influential—who was unavailable, abusive or failed to provide proper nurturing. Thus, such a child became a ‘torchbearer,’ i.e. they put their parent or other influential role model on a pedestal, looking up to them to receive recognition or approval….