Chapter 9 – The Non-Duality of Our Emotions & Experiences

Posted by on Aug 1, 2012

Man when lost, may try to find his footing, traveling blind and weighted down by shoes of clay. Man will say; ‘Do not cast thou eyes upon thy feet,’ because man fears that eyes, devoid of love, pronounce a judgment based on shame. But within each fair judgment lies a call for love, and within each call is found a Light that says; ‘You need not tarry over plagues in darkness; once your feet know Love, they then can light a way.’ -S. Peterson

I have learned that when people polarize their emotions and experiences in their minds—separating them into columns of good and bad, or things we can or cannot experience—it creates tension and fear. I know this entire book seems to be creating a polarity in this regard. It is difficult to discuss the causes of mankind’s incompleteness and split self, without encouraging him to fully embrace that split—in living color. The last chapter discusses the final stage of dropping the pollution of the pond in its entirety. At this stage, one needs not to interpret the symbols of the world, nor understand what they reveal of mankind’s mind-set. But, for those not ready to make this leap, I put forward a few intermediary steps that I am guided by within my own life, and which work for me.

When we create a duality out of our emotions and experiences, and when we as a result feel tension, fear, or aversion, there is a natural movement away from unconditional love. We also sometimes end up creating more of what we are trying to run away from. Emotions are energy, after all. Just because we cut them off from our awareness, does not mean they are not still floating around.

This, again, brings us back to the discussion of the Law of Attraction. Remember, the Law of Attraction offers us a path toward love, and toward integrating ourselves into wholeness. It uncovers all parts of our soul that we are trying to hide from our consciousness. The Law of Attraction is a loving mirror which can be used to reveal to us all that we love or what is in need of our love or attention. How does it achieve this? Via our attracting to us what we would polarize, desire, suppress or run away from.

We are spiritual beings. As such, we are innately whole. We are merely living what seems to be an experience of forgetting who we are. Likewise, we have forgotten how to revere life and our physical vehicle.

For example, the biological body is a physical vehicle and entity of its own—for our spirit to use for its journey. The biological body also has the ability to communicate with us through various types of ‘symptoms.’ Though some symptoms may be uncomfortable, our body has our best interest at heart. Though the body can feel like our enemy at times, it really isn’t. And, if the body is not our enemy, neither are its emotions. In fact, the body and its emotions, via how they communicate with us, can be wonderful tools for our learning.

As a physical entity, our body carries out a variety of physical functions. For example, our brain releases electrical impulses which transport information and messages in mystifying ways. This process is largely autonomic, for the body does know what we need. Through these automatic processes, the brain can control the release of hormones and other chemicals; some involved in our experience of emotions. In this way, our body and brain allow us an amazing and wondrous ability to feel our emotions in physical ways.

In fact, one thing I noticed when I experienced being outside of my body (during an OBE) was that I did not feel emotions in the same way anymore; nor did I think thoughts in the same way either. So, I believe our bodies are vehicles that behave in certain ways. Likewise, thoughts and feelings can arise from our bodies electrical impulses, which may cause us to be subjected to sensations and experiences that have nothing to do with what our soul really thinks or feels.

Thus, in this process of our body creating for us the ability to physically experience sensations and feelings, I do not believe that it is a case that the body was created faulty, nor was the mind. We are on a creative journey. In this amazing journey, our bodies and our emotions can all be used, until such a time or place where we find that we need to worry less about our emotions and whether they hold sway.

So, what can we do if we find our emotions do hold sway?

Instead of labeling certain emotions as ‘negative’ or the ‘opposite of love,’ we can remind ourselves that all emotions we experience through the body—whether comfortable or uncomfortable—are simply biochemical responses. They just are. As I stated in the first chapters, the positives and the negatives we strive for are both illusions; see both as dreams. We can look at both, we can feel both. We do not need to run away from anything we experience through feeling aversion to it. Aversion is just another emotion. We could fight what we perceive as negative, but then our unconditional love could not come into play. The better approach is to trust that even if a negative exists, Truth is always there; even when our illusions try to cloud our minds, eyes, and ears.

As I said earlier, some of our emotions are the natural result of biological processes and are meant for biological and survival purposes. This does not make them good, nor does it mean that they need to be over-indulged. It simply means they are tools our body uses to let our consciousness realize something might be needed or something might be out of balance or alignment.

For example: if we had no fear, we might think we could jump out of a plane or rush out in traffic with nothing to stop us. So, if fear is good in some ways, where is the line of duality drawn, which makes fear one side of polarity, and love another side?

Love Is Not the Opposite of Fear

When I see spiritual individuals preaching to the masses to choose love instead of fear, it does not make sense to me, because why polarize what we can choose to love so that it can be integrated and/or released?

To prove that love is not the opposite of fear, the next time you feel fear, confront it with unconditional love. The fact that we can take love with us into fear proves that emotions are not opposites. The lotus is not even the opposite of the pond. The lotus simply floats upon the pond, while allowed to experience a choice of whether to find its true reflection within itself or within the pond and its mud. However, it is still a lotus whatever choice it makes.

I have mentioned this before, and I will mention it again because it so fits this chapter: one thing that I love about EFT—what has really been a tremendous part of my own healing—is that it does not make any of our emotions or experiences unlovable. Instead, EFT takes love and acceptance into the emotion or experience. One faces and embraces the state that one is experiencing, while stating, “Even though I have this {emotion or condition}, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.” To use EFT for clearing major blocks, one taps various meridian points on the body while affirming, “I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, with all my weaknesses and limitations.”

In this same theme, I feel Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, is a wonderful mentor for anyone who wants to learn to accept, love, embrace, and be in the moment with all of their emotions. Osho is a second mentor whose philosophy of life I have always loved to read. He states in Chapter 19 of A Rose Is a Rose Is a Rose (1978):

My whole emphasis is for acceptance and becoming a witness. But the religions all over the world have corrupted the mind of people, and they have corrupted tremendously. They have created a bifurcation, a split. They have made the whole of humanity schizophrenic. Drop this schizophrenia. Don’t make any split within yourself; you are one–and take yourself as one. And whatsoever is within you, you have to love it, you have to move into its mystery, you have to know it to the very end.

If there is no clear delineation of where a category of emotion or experience is wholly ‘negative’ or ‘positive,’ then there can be no clear duality, and no need for labels, denial, or cursing. After all, what is a ‘curse,’ if it is not the placement of a false perception upon the Self? All simply is.

The only duality that exists is illusion versus reality. And, if you notice, one can exist completely within the other. However, unlike Truth, illusion cannot stand on its own. It cannot live as a separate entity, so it cannot truly be an opposite. It simply doesn’t exist—in the same manner our dreams at night never did.

Empathic Sponging, Curses & Negative Entities

The previous discussion about nonduality applies in the same way to our perceptions about negative entities, curses, empathic energies taken on, etc. I’ve had some clients who experience great anxiety over their interpretations of these ideas. However, nothing outside of us can attack us, except as a reflection of something completely harmless and benign from within.

As I stated in other chapters, the story of our lives and what we experience can be subject to the same laws and boundaries that our dreams at night are. For example, if we were to dream that an entity was trying to attack us, this represents some form of trapped emotion or memory that we feel threatens us. The same holds true in real life. Nothing can exist within our energy field, unless it is first a part of our emotional and biological experience, or something we were willing to experience through taking it on.

I believe that in the Oneness experience that we are living out on earth, for particular entities or attachments to exist within our personal energy field, they must be of like vibration to an emotion, desire or belief that we are suppressing or carrying. This is not a reason to be afraid, but a reason to love, instead. Not through trying to force an experience of love—so that we become free of whatever we are afraid of. Instead, think of love in a way that it becomes unconditional. Unconditional love can state, “I am facing you and you are facing me. You represent a part of me that I have not loved. You represent a way I haven’t felt whole or complete.” If I were to employ EFT, I might use a set-up statement such as, “Even though I have this energy within me that seems to be attacking me [or whatever may be perceived], I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.”

In the end, for any individual who may find themself suffering from any of these perceived issues, giving oneself permission to love oneself with all of one’s perceived demons, curses, or burdens to carry may have the greatest healing affect. Such a person may also wish to work on issues of feeling vulnerable, impure, or not good enough. After all, we all deserve to love ourselves, whatever we experience or attract into our field.

Cleansing

The last thing I want to touch upon is the subject of ‘cleansing.’

Several years ago, I started feeling uncomfortable when clients or friends spoke of how they are always cleansing themselves of certain things, i.e. energies, blocks, the emotions of others they’ve picked up on, imperfections, etc. It seemed as if they were treating parts of themselves as negatives that could never be perfected upon enough. Sometimes, they were anxious that certain energies, even empathic ones, could harm them. They usually wanted these energies cleared right away.

Typically, I found this issue occurred in people who had difficulty accessing their own emotions. Not only did these individuals have issues accepting their own emotions, but it was difficult for them to accept the emotions of others, as well. It pained them to think someone might not approve of them, might be angry with them, disappointed, etc. So, their solutions were to clear themselves so that those types of events were not ‘attracted’ to them.

Underneath this hyper-vigalence concerning wanting life, others and relationships to be some other way than they were, I usually found that the real issue that needed healing was a fear of emotional pain. The dilemma in life is that we are not always going to please other people—even ourselves—all the time. In some situations, it is normal to attract negativity, e.g. even Jesus was persecuted, and Buddha had dissenters and assassination attempts. In such cases, we could strive to be perfect and liked, but at some point certain individuals may decide they do not like us simply because we are too perfect or likeable. As an alternative to encouraging a belief that experiencing others emotions or energy is dangerous in some way, a new mantra can be created. For example, “I allow my own emotions, and I allow others to have theirs as well. I am completely safe.”

As for the physical sensations connected to being empathic or psychically attacked (see glossary), they are usually harmless. However, focusing on such sensations, while mentally labeling them as something external, unsafe or unwanted, often causes the symptoms to feel more pronounced, or to linger.

This does not mean we are to ignore what we feel. If we have a symptom, it could be trying to tell us something. Sometimes, we might benefit from becoming more still and centered in order to discharge ourselves of others’ energies. Sometimes, symptoms might be there to tell us something else. Go within yourself with loving intent to see what you or your energy might need in the moment. Through acceptance there comes the power for transmutation.

If the thought of being impure, attacked, or vulnerable to entities causes any fear, we can think of the child we discussed in Chapter 4 who is terrified of the boogeyman in the closet. Making the child more afraid that the boogeyman is going to come out and cause some sort of disruption will make the child feel less safe. But we do not need to use denial, either. Using denial is similar to telling the child to stop thinking that there is a boogeyman. We all know how well that works! The consciousness will not relate to this concept if it is trapped in fear. The child can only come to experience the truth of this for him or herself.

Therefore, the best way to approach this kind of anxiety is to let the child (or, in the case of ourselves, the inner child) know that the boogeyman is only a scary creature because he feels unloved and feared. Support the child to let the boogeyman out of the closet so that it can be seen in a new way—a way that allows us to have unconditional love and compassion. For, the boogeyman is a part of our own perception and experience. It is a part of our egoic self that has become split off; so it lives as a grotesque and mutant attachment that always seems to be lurking around, ready to pop out when least expected in order to cause havoc or harm.

In summary, while we do not need to over-analyze our experiences and emotions, we can begin to lovingly decode them in order to find something deeper to our storytelling. The trick is to find the dream within the dream, and what story our symbols and emotions are telling us regarding our knowledge or lack of knowledge of our beautiful and shining Self. It is truly an amazing story; one in which we are all dreaming our way back to wholeness, oneness and a home in Spirit.

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Mandy Peterson is a psychic visionary, empath, channel and EFT Practitioner. She is the author of the book “I Am the Lotus, Not the Muddy Pond,” and a regular columnist for the metaphysical magazine, Bellesprit. As an empathic healer and reader, Mandy works 1-to-1 with clients, helping them to achieve clarity, peace and balance. For more information, see the “About” page.