To see a world in a grain of sand And a heaven in a wild flower, Hold infinity in the palm of your hand, And eternity in an hour. -William Blake
You are enough. I am enough. We are all equally enough. So, let us begin to live this Truth instead of speaking about it while promoting something else!
Life is a mirror, and as the saying goes, “As without, so within.” This being true, the excess, pollution, and depletion scenarios manifested in our own lives and toward nature are not accidental. Instead, they are symbols we are dreaming that can be decoded to help us find a better path—one that leads us away from the suffering we incur through our illusions and toward Truth.
The symbols of the world take their original form within predominant streams of collective consciousness that feed on creating or recreating scenarios. As I have said many times, if we can look at the world, it will tell a story. The story I am told seems to be a sad rather than happy story. I am not trying to be negative here. I know this story is not the truth of who we are, nor does it represent our beautiful potential. However, in this story, mankind never feels quite whole or enough. He is forever striving to buy enough, invent enough, implement enough, do enough, be enough, and more. As I stated in chapter 5, this striving prevents many people from being able to relax. Many may even end up suffering from various forms of energy depletion, anxiety, depression, and feelings of emptiness, however subtle.
At the root of this dilemma, mankind currently has an abundance of yang energy. Yang energy is representative of the masculine, the doer and the conqueror. It is symbolized by action, fire, and the sun. Collectively, mankind lacks faith in letting go of his predominant yang disposition. We find it difficult to allow what is yang within us to be complemented and balanced with the gentler and more feminine yin energies. Yin is not trusted as much, because it has a quality that makes people fear a potential loss of opportunity. Why? Because yin represents surrender, flow, emotions, intuition, gentleness, and receptivity. In fact, those who are predominantly yin may be perceived as not doing or achieving enough. At times, yin is even viewed as weakness or laziness.
What is not always taken into account when cultivating a mind-set that is open to abundance is that yin is equally as important as yang. This is because yin is characterized by receptivity. Yang is also important because yang is characterized by action. Both complement one another to create harmony and balance. In addition to this, incorporating yin with yang allows any yang action we take to be heart-centered.
Think of it this way, when yin in present and trusted, we believe our cup is full and we worry less about outcomes. When yin is distrusted, we believe we have to overstrive or we will miss opportunity for gain. We believe we have to worry about outcomes.
Right now, because our current collective mind-set distrusts rather than trusts yin energy, it is commonly believed that one must always be active and achieving in order to master life and to receive. This naturally brings about feelings of fear of inadequacy or loss if we should surrender, trust and let go.
What could help us come into balance is if we can understand that it is a law of Nature that wherever there is overabundance there must follow depletion. Fully understanding how this law of nature works could help us to see that our attempts to have more and more will not really satiate us, but deplete us. This is why we have all the abundance in the world, and yet we are beset by depletion and exhaustion—as perceived not only within our own bodies, but within Nature Herself.
Notice how many of the imbalances that I discussed in Chapter 5 can be applied to Nature as well. She is beginning to show some of the same signs of an inability to cope with similar problems of overabundance, excesses, and demands. It is almost as if a disease has taken over. Nature is not herself anymore. She is ‘un-nature-al.’ She is not in balance. She is on the verge of collapse, and this seems to cause few of us much concern. But, then again, we live in an age where everything is disposable, including life, and a lack of concern for what is true abundance (life) is mitigated by our need to give too much concern to false abundance (non-living things).
The cause is the same for Nature as it is for ourselves. For, Nature is controlled by a parasitic energy that feeds off her continuously and unconsciously. This parasite can only focus upon gorging itself more and more. This is the effect that the current collective consciousness has upon its host. It is unconscious, it is invasive, and it feeds off of its host’s adherence and reliance upon it. The host then becomes imbalanced, and begins to show signs of mirroring the energy of the collective mind-set that possessed it and made it home.
Transforming an Age of Consumerism into an Age of Cooperation & Healing
We live in an age of overconsumption, over-activity, and over-promotionalism. Sometimes, it appears that almost everyone has something to promote, buy, or sell. Of course, our advancement is complicated by a multitude of spiritual books and gurus who tell us how to thrive and survive in this age—and how to become a product for sale within it—rather than how to transcend it. Thus, we end up subliminally taught that to be unsuccessful in the material world—according to this consciousness of consumerism—means that we are ‘less than’ in some way. We are taught this means that we have ‘blocks’ to clear as if it were a disease.
To me, the best thing that we can do right now to heal the earth, mankind, and ourselves is to work toward understanding that we are whole and enough. We always were. Furthermore, as long as we can unite with our fellow man in loving ways, we will always be safe, supported, and have enough, as well.
What blocks most of us from realizing that we are safe and enough, is we are so afraid to let go of the material, the drama, and the struggle in order to truly come together in peace and love. After all, think about the times you have been upset with the people in your life, what was it about? Were they trying to be more than you? Were you jealous or envious of something they had or achieved? Were they jealous or envious of you? Were they being greedy or expecting too much from you? Were they so focused on work that they had less time to show you that they cared? Were they not appreciating your efforts?
Upon closer examination, almost all of our emotions and struggles go back to various feelings of being either less than, more than, or incomplete on some level. If we could allow ourselves to let go of the need for competition and material completion, while aspiring to become more heart-centered and cooperative, we would probably find we had less drama in our lives. However, there is a lot of resistance to letting certain philosophies filter out, so that new philosophies and approaches can filter in. This isn’t something to judge within ourselves, but to have compassion for.
All of this said, in my work as an EFT practitioner, I found several issues common to clients who wanted healings to clear blocks to attracting money or abundance:
- An inability to feel comfortable in the present moment due to always being focused on the next project, the next success, or something else that can be achieved, produced or overcome.
- Not enough time to relax and take care of themselves, resulting in anxiety over any downtime required to overcome exhaustion or illness—because downtime can get in the way of accomplishing ambitions.
- A fear of loss.
- A fear of the unknown or of not being in control.
- An inability to access the heart due to worrying too much or being too stuck in the mind.
- Feelings of worthlessness or of being ‘less than’ if there is an inability to feel successful within a job, relationship, or with pleasing another person.
Then, visualize, what would happen if we could all learn to let these mentalities go? “But how is this achieved?” you may ask.
For those who have a focus on future success and/or abundance, I ask you to think about what you are really looking for through its attainment. Start your healing process there. What do you feel in your body, when you think of doing nothing and living happily with less? Does this thought make you anxious? Repulsed? Feel like a failure? Do you feel not in control or that you don’t know how to survive? Do you feel unacceptable to the world? Does it feel like giving up an addiction? To answer this last question, we need to discuss the nature of addiction and attachment.
The Nature of Addiction & Attachment
He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough. -Lao Tzu
The truth is that we not only live in an age of consumerism, but also an age of addiction.
Additionally, the majority of us within the collective consciousness act out compulsively, trying to satisfy all of our numerous material addictions, including our addictive quest for money. Not that this is either bad or good. It is merely a symptom arising from an inner state of anxiety and incompleteness that many of us have not yet learned to cope with in any other way.
While various healers and gurus would have us clear all our blocks to viewing money as a negative thing, what needs to be cleared most is the addictive and compulsive energies around money that give it a bad name. The root of this addiction needs to be cleared, as well. However, this root can only be accessed through examining the collective consciousness and its mind-set of ‘never-enoughness’ and lack.
Money, used appropriately, is simply a means of exchange. However, when we live in greed, fear, and compulsion for more, it then begins to affect our personality. Once it affects our personality, it may cause loss of self-esteem, conflict, anxiety, bondage, theft, and more. Money and greed can destroy families and other relationships. It is the number one cause of divorce.
The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines addiction as the “…compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly: persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.” The same dictionary gives the words dependence and habit as examples of synonyms.
What is it about us, within us, and in our attitudes toward money that makes it so addictive, and makes us so compulsive in pursuing it? Even when one has enough, it is never enough. One may even develop a ‘tolerance’ toward it. In fact, the more one has, the more one wants. The gratitude and exhilaration eventually wear off, so the addicted individual needs more and more money to get the same ‘high’ or effects. The same process may happen with success, achievement, fame, and other pursuits of ‘not-enoughness.’
If we can look at the dream that is being created in a detached and unbiased way, we can realize we are an addicted society. One sign of addiction is pursuing an activity to the point of self-destruction. Addictions may also affect the family members, friends and close relationships of the addict. In fact, addicts often mute their own empathy and compassion so that they can continue feeding their addictions, showing little concern for others whom their addictions affect. Addicts become this way because they feel out of control. This calls out for our love and compassion.
Addicts do not always understand why they are addicted. Some may not even be conscious that they are addicted at all. They just know they need more of what they are addicted to. In a similar manner, it has not really mattered to us that we are destroying our environment, jeopardizing our children’s future, hurting our friends and neighbors, or harming other forms of life, because we want our fix and will have it at any cost. Maybe it is time to lovingly ask why?
Is the solution never to have money or things? Not really. The solution lies with healing any core of inner not-enoughness within us that breeds addiction, of which my guides say the predominant emotion is shame. Any healing we wish to receive for our addictions does not need to be rooted in self-denial or even self-blame, but in changing our beliefs about what we are addicted to. Like any addiction, it is solved by developing a new relationship to we are addicted to, as well as developing a pattern of moderation.
Our ability to overcome certain addictions—not just to money—is blocked because certain metaphysical concepts have erroneously, and via the ego, labeled having lots of money and material abundance as ‘positive.’ As I have mentioned before, the subliminal message becomes, “If one is not materially abundant, then one must have some sort of mental block that is interfering [e.g. sickness].” This, of course, adds to our drive to acquire what is ‘good’ in order to improve our social position and feeling of being enough.
Remember, you can become addicted to anything—anything that causes you to be compulsive and anxious about acquiring it. We can be addicted to relationships, the need for approval, sex, drugs, alcohol, drama, chaos, possessions, games, television, and more. I have even seen people get addicted to psychic readings, healings, clearings, attunements, and attending new-age courses and seminars.
Anyone who looks honestly at the world will see that the collective consciousness is a mess of addictions that are all habit-forming. Again, I’m not stating addictions are wrong, nor something we need to force ourselves to abandon out of shame. They simply represent a pattern of imbalance. They keep us from what we all are truly looking for: love. After all, how many addicts do we know who feel complete and loved? This is not to say that we are not the very essence of love. It is simply evidence that we are unconscious of who we truly are as the lotus, not the muddy pond.
Are Concepts of Success & Failure Leaving You Feeling Not Enough?
As we have seen, having—the concept of ownership—is a fiction created by the ego to give itself solidity and permanency and make itself stand out, make itself special. Since you cannot find yourself through having, however, there is another more powerful drive underneath it that pertains to the structure of the ego: the need for more, which we could also call ‘wanting.’ No ego can last for long without the need for more. Therefore, wanting keeps the ego alive much more than having. The ego wants to want more that it wants to have. And so the shallow satisfaction of having is always replaced by more wanting. This is the psychological need for more, that is to say, more things to identify with. It is an addictive need, not an authentic one. -Eckhart Tolle
Success and achievement can also be addictive; and when I use the term success, I am referring to the wayward definition that the current collective conscious ascribes to.
I know for myself personally, I have been a huge success and I have been an outstanding failure in the eyes of the world. It taught me one thing, though; when I focused too much on success and failure, I created more ‘failure’ in my mind-set: failure to adopt a correct perception of my Self; failure to simply enjoy life and the present moment; failure because there was always more for me to be considered ‘not good enough’ and a failure at. The bar separating success and failure is all perception and not truly real in the end. And, the bar to its attainment can keep rising to rigorous, self-abusive, self-demeaning, or exhausting standards if we let it.
Most notably, I now understand that even during the times I manifested the most success in my life and enjoyed the most materially, I was not the most happy. In fact, I suffered from severe depression.
So, I am under no illusion that success must bring happiness any more than failure must bring with it feelings of defeat. How we view our life is simply a transitory perception, after all. For, what could be considered a failure to one person might be a success to another, and what could be considered a success to one person might be a failure to someone who may pursue a different lifestyle or different values. What is important is aiming to be a success by loving ourselves for who we are in the now.
Looking back, my obsession with success and failure made me view the world as a competition. The object of the completion was to find a ladder(s) in life in which to climb (the more ladders one could climb the better). Each ladder had many rungs on which to stand; each representing a level of achievement. And, if I should not find myself standing on one of the higher rungs, I allowed this to define my worth as being ‘less than,’ rather than ‘enough.’
In essence, I had created a heightened emphasis on duality where it did not really exist. I also learned a valuable lesson: if life is played like a race, you might just end up exhausted in the end—running, running, and more running; always trying to stay ahead of the game, or at least attempting to keep up in some way.
This is why I think that it is so important to take a break every now and then to stop and smell the flowers. Come to know who you truly are within yourself, independent of how anything or anyone may try to define you. Find a beauty and sense of worth that is eternal and ever present: a beauty that cannot be found externally, but only within your innermost heart and soul. It might help to adopt a new self-loving concept of abundance to replace an old one that is creating imbalance. You are a miracle, after all!
So, how can we view abundance in another way?
What Is True Abundance?
True abundance has nothing to do with gain or loss. With true abundance, there is no fear of what might be lost, nor feeling of a need for more to complete oneself. With true abundance, one lives in gratitude for everything one already has in the present moment. This is why, I think, the Bible states that it is harder for a rich man to get into heaven. Heaven is where the heart is. The more we look outside of it to fill a void, the more absent we feel in our heart.
When we know true abundance, we can then begin to see the miracles in the simple things in life. Those who primarily focus on acquiring things, as well as those who need miracles to be extravagant, truly miss the beauty of the miracle.
Why is being able to see the miracle so important? It is important because even the act of seeing the miracle has a way of making us feel more expansive. Therefore, once we see the miracle, we begin to care for more than just ourselves; we begin to feel a sense of oneness with other living things and beings. We can then feel true joy and bliss. Which, I am sure we all have had small moments such as this, when we grasped the inherent beauty of something seemingly ordinary, and once we fully grasped that beauty, we recognized something beautiful within ourselves as well.
In truth, there is no such thing as striving for abundance. The act of striving states that abundance is absent and needs to be sought. The act of striving eclipses the beauty, wonder, and appreciation for both what one is and what one has. One can only know and accept abundance. For, how can one strive for what one already is? In fact, to realize abundance, all one has to do is see it and believe in it. There is nothing to attract at a future time. There is only a present moment to enjoy, which the miracle occupies that moment.
A truly abundant person does not need excessive abundance in the way of the flesh anymore because he has achieved it from within his lotus nature. He trusts his worldly needs are taken care of. Because he is not excessive, he naturally attracts what meets his needs through cooperation, deeds, and trust.
After all, if our current attitudes regarding acquiring abundance truly attracted abundance, then why is the world at risk of self-destruction (and loss of everything) through its striving? To be clear, it is not so much the wanting of things that brings self-destruction, but our inability to recognize the true miracle and abundance of life in order to whole-heartedly and lovingly wish to preserve, protect, and revere it. To reach this state of mind, however, we have to acquire the ability to lovingly understand how another state of mind is not working for us. We need to compassionately acknowledge what our addictions are creating, and be responsible for the effects.
So, here is what I believe of the world’s concepts of abundance: needy people may attract an abundance of things or they may not attract them, depending upon what type of psychological blocks they possess. But whether or not they attract an abundance of things, the materially abundant and the materially less abundant may both have neediness as a trait in common. I am aware some people do exist who are not needy and who do attract an abundance of things. Such individuals are easily recognizable, because they generously give away this type of abundance or share it. They can take or leave the things they attract.
The needy people who attract many things, and the needy people who do not attract many things, both suffer from the same dis-ease: ‘never-enoughness.’ They allow the true miracle of peace and love to escape them.
In the end, here is all anyone needs to know in order to receive the riches within their inner kingdom: inner abundance is not connected to outer abundance. Inner need is, however. Otherwise, there would not be mass numbers of rich and powerful people in the world who have every need met, as well as fame and fortune beyond measure, and yet such individuals are still deeply depressed and struggling with various forms of suffering.
Alternatively, many who have achieved inner abundance have, by choice, lived simply and with less. Why? Because an attitude of inner abundance allows for simplicity because the inner abundant person has less fear, less neediness, less need for control, etc. Stated in another way, the truly abundant person is able to embrace the present moment and find love, beauty, peace, unity, and everything else abundant in that present moment.
What Can We Do To Feel Enough?
Remember, within you is a divine lotus that is wholly pure, even though the pond it lies upon might be affected by mud and slime. The muddy waters are not what the lotus is. They do not define the lotus, nor represent its truth or beauty. The lotus is still as much a lotus as it ever was.
It is okay to apply the same principles to our world around us. Our purpose is to create a bridge, and to experience being the lotus within a material pond; which I’m sure we all have encountered that the material experience can be a difficult one to master if we are too much under its sway.
Remember that the mind-set of the world is much like the muddy water. It is full of illusions and definitions which appear to represent a form of Truth, but which do not really reflect Truth at all. The mind-set of the world reflects only the truth of the many illusions that we anxiously seek to maintain.
To create a bridge between illusion and Truth means to be able to exist in the material world and in the Spirit world at the same time without feeling that we have to compromise our lotus nature in order to obey the ways and norms conveyed by the muddy water.
So, how do we achieve this bridge?
Instead of compromising our lotus nature, we can choose to see the unconsciousness beneath the fear-based utterings of the collective consciousness as simply noise. If we are still enough, we can separate who we are from all of that extraneous noise that surrounds us. Then, we can realize how conditioned we have been by these utterings to the point that we subconsciously believe that if we go against the norm, we will be alone, different, disapproved of, or deprived of bounty in some way. This, of course, breeds a fear of loss within us.
Secondly, remember that the solution—a simpler way of living and being—is only distasteful if we are conditioned to believe this is the truth. After all, we have been trained from childhood not to accept a natural simplicity and innocence to life. We have been taught it is an ominous mind-set that has the potential to bring about a state of loss. This is merely a false truth, however. The real truth is that simplicity is merely ‘simple.’ The only things we stand to lose through embracing simplicity are the facets of the pond that never truly served us. What we stand to gain in place of what is lost is our true innocence.
We can overcome any brainwashing that has been aimed toward convincing us to reject our natural state of simplicity and innocence. While this brainwashing might have begun in childhood, I’m sure most of us can still reflect upon certain memories of what it was like to be a child and to enjoy simplicity and ‘present-momentness.’ So, do not be afraid to go back to those memories as often as you can. Most of us, I’m sure, at a young age knew how to be innocent, authentic and playful without needing much of anything. This may have been why it is stated in Matthew 19:14, NIV;
Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”
A second way to overcome some of our subconscious conditioning toward rejecting what is simple and natural is to go back within ourselves to discover every person, advertisement, program, norm, guru, or other who told us that we had to strive to be enough, in however subtle a way. As a neutral observer, simply observe the world’s psychosis, including its constant barrage of subtle and not-so-subtle communications—some not even grasped by our consciousness or able to be put into words. Once able to decipher our own truth in these ways, we can come to know that we are not the world’s psychosis. The world’s psychosis is only a form of collective thought; a whisper of nothingness.
If we can allow ourselves to rise out of this muddy pond of collective psychosis, we can become enlightened to all of the various whisperings and mantras which keep us locked into affirming our ‘not enoughness,’ and which keep us dependent and disempowered. Such mantras keep us seeking who we are in what we do, possess, own, master, or have control over in the external world. Ultimately, these subliminal messages keep us chasing something we can never have; that is, as long as they keep us looking outside of ourselves for our worth and identity.
There is another choice we can make, however. We can realize that we have been part of a larger game, which involves breaking free of feeling we have to sell our soul to be enough in some way. The aim of the game is awakening to what we made real which never was. A game in which we realize that most of what we hold dear is illusion; an illusion we will all play along with, until a time where we no longer need to anymore.