5 Tips for Getting Over a Romantic Obsession

A romantic obsession is an unrealistic attachment to someone who is not interested in you. If the other person has ended the relationship and you cannot accept that, your pursuit then becomes problematic

5 Warning Signs You Are Dating A Control Freak

Both men and women are capable of falling for control freaks. You start off liking their authoritative ways, only to realize they like controlling everything around them (including you!). If you suspect you might be dating someone with control issues, read on to discover 5 sure signs.

Are You Compatible? 4 Signs You Might Not Be

Compatibility is an important part of a romantic relationship. Physical attraction and good conversation are important, but you have to look at your lifestyle and plans you have for your future too. If you are at opposite ends of the spectrum, you might not have enough in common to have a successful long-term relationship.

6 Signs That A Woman Doesn’t Value Herself

A woman who doesn’t value herself might not see her worth and how much she offers the world and others. She may not see that what she has to offer is equal in measure to what others have to offer. Due to this, she may exhibit behavior that allows others to treat her poorly. Here are six common signs that a woman has a low sense of self-worth.

Is There Still a Chance for You and an Ex? Will Anything Bring Him or Her Back?

Breaking up is one of the most difficult things that can happen in your love life. It’s unsettling, and at other times it can be confusing. You don’t understand where did you go wrong and you may be trying to find ways to make your ex-notice you again. However, you might just be pushing him or her away with the things that you’re doing.

How to Have a Civilized Divorce

When Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced that they were “consciously uncoupling” but remained good friends, it was greeted with much sniggering and ridicule. Yet, however irritating the phrase may have been, such a calm, even affectionate, divorce is possible. Of course, there are frequently good reasons for anger and hatred; abuse, neglect, and infidelity leave scars that last for years. But marriage breakdowns often degenerate into bitterness quite unnecessarily.

How to Stop Needing People’s Approval (But Still Gain Their Respect)

Most people want others to like them and strive to have this goal realized. Those who become people-pleasers have low self-esteem and don’t recognize better ways to achieve their aim of attracting others admiration and respect. This article explains why people-pleasing doesn’t work and suggests ways to boost confidence and gain security and respect.

9 Subtle Signs Of Abuse That You Shouldn’t Ignore

Abuse in a relationship should never be tolerated. However, you might be surprised by what constitutes an abusive relationship. You might think of abuse as physical, but hitting, slapping, and threats of harm are not the only kinds of maltreatment. Here are some subtle signs of abuse that should not be ignored.

If Your Relationship Moves Too Fast It Might Not Last

Are you feeling disillusioned in love because you find yourself attracted to ardent admirers who sweep you off your feet, move a relationship forward really fast, but before you know it its over or they are giving you the brush off? Recently I had someone ask me for advice what to do in this kind of situation. Here is the best advice I could think of…

Watch Out For Being The “Transitional” Lover!

Be on alert if someone asks you to “wait” for them because they are “not ready.” A transitional love may say they need “time,” or may only seem ready for a “friends with benefits” affair. Some may go through periods of contact followed by withdrawal; leaving you wondering what happened.

When Criticism and Slander Are Used as Weapons

Sometimes, when slander is used as a weapon, the intention is to psychologically “isolate” a person so that receiving support will prove difficult. This can happen in dysfunctional families, abusive relationships, divorces, political campaigns, or corporate takeovers. The main intention of the person doing the slandering is to get the public or others to lose faith in a person; to stop supporting them so that support can be maintained for the person who is engaging in slander.

Are You In A Relationship With Unpredictable Rewards?

In 2008, I had a client who explained to me there was once an experiment that was done with pigeons (I have since found out it the experiment was actually done with rats and that this process is called "Intermittent Reinforcement" see here >>). She explained that In this experiment, the pigeons were divided into [...]

Seductive Withholders

Like Romance Addicts, Seductive Withholders are a form of Ambivalent Love Addict. Ambivalent Love Addicts tend to crave intimacy and closeness with a partner, but fear it at the same time. They tend to keep relationships at a superficial level through various means. This protects them from having to develop a closer and more intimate relationship.

Are You In Love With A Narcissist?

A lot of the calls that I receive are from individuals who are in love with someone who frustrates them and they just want to know if things will ever change. Other calls are from individuals who have lost a love and they want to know if it can be rekindled or retrieved. Some are individuals in a relationship with someone who just can’t make an emotional commitment. However some individuals may be with a partner who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NDP). Such love interests, even if they are charming and pursue you very ardently, may be completely unable to give or show love in a genuine way…

Addiction to Unrequited Love

It may sound silly for an individual to be addicted to unrequited love, but it can sometimes be the result of growing up in a household where love was either conditional or inconsistent. As a result, the child of such a household may have felt anxious to win the love, praise or affection of a parent—or someone else influential—who was unavailable, abusive or failed to provide proper nurturing. Thus, such a child became a ‘torchbearer,’ i.e. they put their parent or other influential role model on a pedestal, looking up to them to receive recognition or approval….