Are You Compatible?

Compatibility is an important part of a romantic relationship. Physical attraction and good conversation are important, but you have to look at your lifestyle and plans you have for your future too. If you are at opposite ends of the spectrum, you might not have enough in common to have a successful long-term relationship. This article outlines outlines four signs that you and the man or woman you are dating might not be compatible.

It can be difficult to find someone you are compatible enough with to share a life with, but it’s worth waiting for. Being compatible doesn’t mean you’re exactly the same. It does mean you share the same ideas about the important matters and can spend time with in activities you both enjoy. Here are four signs that you might not be compatible as a couple.


1. You are ambitious, s/he is not

If you’re an ambitious person, you want to be with someone who is also ambitious. While it isn’t that much of a concern if the person is not as ambitious as you, if they have no goals whatsoever, they might not understand or support you as much as you might need. If you are working toward a future that involves travel, children, and financial security, you want to be with someone who has the same ideas about his future. If the person you’re involved with is content living paycheck-to-paycheck, there’s nothing wrong with that, but they might not be a match for you.


2. You’re active, s/he is sedentary

If you live a life of adventure and fitness, you want to be with someone who is into those things as well. If you are dating someone who prefers video games, fast food, and staying home, such a person probably isn’t the right person for you. It’s important that couples share similar lifestyles. If you are in a relationship with someone who lives an opposite lifestyle, you will either find yourself doing things without them a lot or you will stop doing things you love in order to spend time with them. If an active and healthy lifestyle is important to you, being with someone with similar priorities.


3. You never know how s/he feels about you

If the person you’re dating isn’t open or clear about the way they feel, they might not be the “one” for you. When you’ve been seeing someone for a while, he or she should be consistent in the way they treat you as well as open about their feelings and intentions. A person who runs hot and cold isn’t a love interest you should waste time on. You want to invest in someone that you know is as serious about you as you are about them. If you desire being told and shown you’re wanted and loved, and the person you’re involved with isn’t like that, you’re not compatible.


4. You’re only happy with one aspect of your relationship

If you’re only happy with the physical or emotional side of your relationship, you’re not getting as much out of your relationship as you could be. If a person you’re involved with only satisfies you in one way, you don’t need to settle. It’s a common misconception that you can’t expect to find someone who is the whole package. This doesn’t mean the person has to be perfect. Perfection is not a quality you should aspire to find.

If you want to spend your life with someone, sharing a similar lifestyle is important. Liking someone is a good start, but without a solid foundation it will be difficult to keep the relationship strong and moving forward.