by Peaceful Warrior
To break with convention—which I don’t follow anyway —I shall begin this with a little story. It is quite personal, so bear with me.
When I was just a kid, I believed that my parents didn’t notice me at all. I craved their attention, but felt bereft of any real and personal interest in me as a child and a member of the family. I knew there was something wrong in all of this. My feelings, my emotions and intuition said that I should expect more. I tried various tactics in the end to get the attentions of my siblings and parents, even if the outcome was the wrong kind of attention. I got smacked a lot more than all of them put together. (Woo, bad word smacked) In my reasoning at that time, I felt unloved, uncared for, unheard and subsequently determined that to mean that I was worthless and useless. You can imagine what this feeling ended up creating in me as a person. It was carried with me all my life through adolescence and puberty and finally all of my adult relationships, until one day I finally realised where the real problem lay.
(A word I borrow from Mandy Peterson)
I eventually realised that the problem actually resided within me, and was not created by others; even if they had played a part in its construction. I felt as though I was not ‘good enough’ to be loved, and was therefore ‘unworthy’ of the love of my parents and family. My whole life was formed around a misconception about what was enough, about me as a person being enough to be loved and respected.
Boy, this was some weird and traumatic experience, and working to become free from it has almost been the death of me; almost literally. In fact, in one sense, it has caused a spiritual death; a death where I could be born again in spirit where I am free to be the person I truly am. Now, I’m not talking Billy Graham evangelism here, but a transformation through emotional fire to cleanse my soul of the guilt I had built up in childhood.
Firstly, let me say categorically that I do not hold my parents or my siblings blameful for this. Nor am I going to spend any more time trying to analyse it. They were responsible for me too, yet they themselves were young and inexperienced in noticing what or how I was developing as a child and what my individual needs were, or how they could have rectified any misconceptions on my behalf. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and yet it can be fraught with many negatives. So, I am now able to have a mixture of the two ends of the spectrum of experience which have helped me be who I am today. I now see that they did, in fact, love and care for me, and I recognise all the things that prove this, even though it has taken many years to fathom it for myself.
Let’s now have a look and see what abundance is in its many descriptions, so that we can evaluate why we as people may need to rethink or readjust our view.
- a copious supply; great amount
- fullness or benevolence ⇒ from the abundance of my heart
- degree of plentifulness
- (chemistry) the extent to which an element or ion occurs in the earth’s crust or some other specified environment: often expressed in parts per million or as a percentage
- (physics) the ratio of the number of atoms of a specific isotope in a mixture of isotopes of an element to the total number of atoms present: often expressed as a percentage ⇒ the abundance of neon-22 in natural neon is 8.82 per cent
- also called: abondance. a call in solo whist undertaking to make nine tricks
C14: via Old French from Latin abundantia, from abundāre to abound
View thesaurus entry
= plenty, heap, bounty, exuberance, profusion, plethora, affluence, fullness, opulence, plenitude, fruitfulness, copiousness, ampleness, cornucopia, plenteousness, plentifulness
= wealth, money, funds, capital, cash, riches, resources, assets, fortune, possessions, prosperity, big money, wad, affluence, big bucks, opulence, top dollar, megabucks, tidy sum, lucre, wonga, pretty penny, pelf, top whack
Images of abundance and its counterpart:
I feel sure that many of us are now a little confused as to why we feel there is a difference in how we have viewed this topic so far, if in fact this is the case for you. I venture to say though, that if we look at our actions more closely we will possibly see gross imbalances as to what we say we believe and what we show we believe.
Many people strive for ‘happiness’ and ‘success.’ YET, when they follow a path to achieve this goal, most often pursuing money, they find neither. The old adage is; ‘money cannot buy happiness.’ How many of us show that we believe this by following the paths we take? In the modern world, it is almost profane to suggest that money does not BUY happiness. So much is done to prove this by the sellers of magazines, products, gadgets and the producers of glamorous films and T.V. shows.
Does what you do, show a clearer image of your beliefs than what you say?
It really does seem profane to suggest that material things are not necessities to most of us. This is despite the fact that we have lived on this planet without these things for a millennia. Yes, no one will deny that material things bring us some ease and comfort in life, and that they can serve us in our pursuit of enjoyment. However, they have only been in our possession for a very short period of time. The internet, for example, has only been available for about 20 years. Mobile phones have been around a little longer. Fridges, washing machines, televisions and cars have been around for a few years longer—going back only into the end of the nineteenth century. Houses that people own (except for landowners and aristocracy) are a new thing, as well (going back only as far as the middle of the twentieth century). Let’s not forget that indoor toilets and bathrooms are relatively new conventions in terms of history; as are fresh running water and modern medicines. Yet, we take all of this for granted and even expect it as a basic living requirement. It is as if we have no clear guideline as to what is enough in order to be able to live and be happy.
I’m certainly not about to dictate to anyone what is enough for them, or even for myself for that matter. Things change and we would be wise to readjust our thinking at these junctures if we want to be able to continue living with a modicum of happiness. You see, we have been living under a misconception that we are victims to it all—much like how I felt like a victim in my childhood. However, we are certainly not victims here. What we do in the larger part with regards to money, luxury and seeking success is premeditated. It may be true that commerce and advertisers manipulate us and our unconscious psyche to get us to follow their edicts and demands without our being aware of it, but we choose our paths and have to be responsible for the outcomes of them. The world tells us we need more and so we buy more. Do we realise that we cannot carry on like this without a negative result? I urge each and every person reading this to watch the video “An Inconvenient Truth,” Al Gore, to see if the thirst for more abundance has not in fact been causing the devastation of the very planet we need to survive.
Yet, I still say, abundance is within, not without. Could we not all try to realise the truth of this statement, and do our utmost to rectify our actions, to come in line with real and sustainable options for continued living here on mother earth? Please evaluate exactly what it is that is important to you and avoid the surplus. Do we really need all this stuff, this surplus and wanton luxury at the cost of our environment and future? I am convinced that most of us see abundance as a goal to be sought out as if our lives depended upon it: the mining for more and more as proof of our success. It is a contagion that is gripping the world and its’ thinking. It is creating a monster that cannot easily be stopped. It decimates our homes and still leaves us thirsting for more. We need to quell this desire for more; to let go of the inadequate feelings of ‘not-enoughness’, and discover the truth of our lack. The solution is simpler than we realise, and as such is often discarded as inconsequential. But it is far from that.
I feel a better way to view abundance is in what we actually have, that we rarely see. It is in the family, the unity and the cooperation of everyone working together. Not in individual, somewhat selfish pursuits. Teamwork is a great analogy.
There is a wonderful book that I am blessed to have been sent a copy of by a new friend that details and highlights many of the advantages of reviewing our way of looking at things, especially those that relate to our personal thinking and reasoning [and also those of a wider collective nature].
It is one of the best books I have read thus-far in my entire life because it is helping me realise my true nature and what I need to do to materialise real abundance. Of course, life is not just about reading books for knowledge, life experiences teach us far more. But with the reflective tones of Mandy Peterson’s book, I feel sure you will engage far more fluidly with understanding your/our true nature and what that will mean to your/our decision making with regards particularly to abundance.
Don’t hesitate please get a copy of this book and follow your journey to where abundance is what it really is: exactly what you have within, not without.
My honest truth is now; I am enough…!
Everything I want is within and my joy is finding ways to manifest it by sharing it all with you.
All my love is being sent out to all of you, wherever you may be.
Namaste brothers and sisters.